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Welcome
to the "Riding the Wave - The Wave Riders™ "
Newsletter. http://www.thewaveriders.com
What
is THE answer?
by Indigo Irwin Kennedy
If you have ever tried living
and loving us emotional wave riders, one thing is certain...you
have found a world where you are "walking on eggshells"
and are lost at how to react when "we go off". Change
happens best when we instigate change from within. You are
not responsible for our anger and/or our sadness.
Anger can arise for a variety of reasons. For me, I know that
if I am feeling angry, then I have been working too much,
playing too much or am "off my path". I might have
taken on a project for the money rather than because it was
something that I wanted to do. Exhaustion finally wins and
I am on the attack....a vicious monster that no- one can control
and whose words no longer make sense.
What did not bother me yesterday - today will send me on the
hunt for my prey....and that prey may be the victim of a vulgar
tongue lashing lasting for as long as they stay in my presence
or until I break down into tears to release the pressure.
Then after a good sob, the pressure now feeling down to a
manageable state...guilt comes in at how I behaved but guilt
and hindsight don't help the victims...only prevention of
the anger can heal relationships. To live or be raised in
a world of uncertainty is not good for anyone.
By practicing balanced work, play, creativity and rest I have
removed this monster 98% from my personality and with a little
more balance it may be gone completely. For the remaining
2% we have an action plan. That is for now we go to our separate
rooms to calm down and breathe.
It is up to us, not our spouses
nor our children to fix this.
This is not a healthy reaction
to life...but it happens every day with creative Wave Riders
pushing themselves beyond normal limitations. The people that
we love are most often our main targets simply because they
are there! Not wanting to continue this pattern I learned
that if I stay balanced in life then this monster no longer
exists.
Now if the monster appears it
is a sign...a trigger for me not to release the anger onto
someone else but to get back into balance and back on track
as quickly as possible.
One of the most common questions
I receive is "how do I react or what do I do if my wife/my
husband "goes off".
The answer for me is..... leave
me alone for awhile. Let me stew alone. I will come to my
own senses and I will readjust my attitude. For someone that
does not understand why they are angry - this may not be the
answer. People everyday are searching out ways to help the
people that they love. Can you tell what will help you when
you are in a fit of anger or frustration?
I am sending out this note
to ask you...
Help us to help those that love
you.....what can we tell your spouse or children to do when
you have a fit of anger?
Please Send your response
and/or your story to handling_anger@thewaveriders.com
All responses are confidential
- the answers will be tallied nonspecifically and posted to
the site to help those that love us and are desperately trying
to reach us.
Take steps to get better...read whatever you can, talk to
your doctor, balance your life and make it better for everyone
including yourself - you will find it is worth the effort!
Around the heart, past the mind
and into the soul.
Enjoy the journey
Indigo
Indigo Irwin Kennedy
Author: The Wave Riders
http://www.thewaveriders.com
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